Preparation

Personal Concerns and Stabilizing Your Life 

Many people must get their basic life needs met (needs for security, belonging, and self-esteem) before they are ready to focus their energy on life purpose issues. If you suffer from physical or psychological difficulties that prevent you meeting these needs, you may need to attend to them first. We each move through this process at the pace that is right for us, given our history and circumstances. 

Let yourself look at this process of attending to personal concerns as the first step toward finding your life purpose. This is especially important for those of you, mainly women, who have been trained to ignore your own needs in serving others.  Don't confuse this self-denying attitude with the higher service of life purpose, which includes taking care of yourself. It is perfectly appropriate for you to learn how to take care of your own needs for a fulfilling life, and this may need to come first, before focusing on a higher purpose. Those of you who have spent significant time and energy on personal healing may also recognize that you gain compassion, insight, and depth through the healing process which will enable you to make a fuller contribution to the world.

If your life is stressed, chaotic, or rigidly locked in a pattern that leaves you little time for reflection or exploration, you may have to make some important changes before you will have room to find your life purpose. You may need to stabilize your life in a way that leaves you time and energy to devote to your life purpose project. This may mean getting out of toxic situations, cutting down on unnecessary spending, living more simply, changing your priorities, improving your health, stabilizing your financial situation, or changing some of your relationships. Even though this may take quite some time, it can be necessary before you make progress on life purpose issues. See Making a Living While Making a Difference, by Melissa Everett, Step 2.

Are your personal needs met sufficiently that you are interested in life purpose pursuits? Do you have enough time and energy to devote to finding your life purpose? 

Emotional Support

Throughout this process it is important to get emotional support and encouragement from friends, family, and others in your life. It is very helpful to regularly connect with others who understand your desire for a meaningful life and career and who may be working toward the same ends themselves. You can receive feedback, support, suggestions, and networking help. It is especially helpful to have people who are good listeners, and who won’t rush you into thinking about practical issues or making decisions too quickly. If possible, become part of an on-going group which provides this support. See Wishcraft, by Barbara Sher, chapter 7, or Everett, Step 3.

Do you have people to support you in your life purpose exploration?

Financial Support

For many people, discovering and actualizing life purpose can take quite a while, and therefore they need to have a means of supporting themselves financially while they are engaged in this process. Though you may be aiming at a career that will eventually be financially secure as well as meaningful, in the meantime you need a way to support yourself that also leaves you time to devote to your search for your life purpose.

A recommendation: A number of people have quit a previous job that was unsatisfying and spent a year or so enjoying the time off and finding themselves, but not exploring their life purpose. When they start to run out of money, they call for Life Purpose Coaching. This is not the best time to do this because then you may have to balance life purpose work with finding a new job that will temporarily support you financially. It would be much better to start your life purpose exploration when you first quit your old job (or even before then if you don’t have money saved). Then you will have the time and energy to pursue your life purpose without having to worry about money or a new job that you don’t really want. 

If you are in this situation, however, we can still help you. Using many of the same processes with a slightly different orientation, we can help you discover the kind of job that would be best for you in the short term. This can even be combined with an exploration of your your ideal life purpose, which may take longer to find and actualize.

Do you have a way of supporting yourself financially while you find and actualize your life purpose?

Personal Power

Many people are held back from pursuing their life purpose by low self-esteem, a feeling of inadequacy, or a sense of not deserving to be successful in the world. Others have difficult because of fears of taking risks or a sense of not being powerful in the world. It is very important to cultivate an attitude of acceptance, respect, and loving and enthusiastic support towards yourself. In addition, you will need the confidence and courage to take the risks in putting yourself out in the world. If you are blocked in any of these areas, this can make it difficult to even know what your life purpose is. See my booklet A Course in Self-Esteem, and also Inner Journeys, section five.

Do you feel that you have the confidence and personal power to change your life in the way you want?

Social Awareness and Vision

Social Understanding

We are in the midst of a planetary crisis growing out of the major historical transition we are undergoing. Our current world view and institutions, which are based on mechanistic ways of understanding the world and domination of others and the earth, are no longer working.  We are faced with threats of war, ecological disintegration, and social chaos. This is the breakdown accompanying the emergence of a new way of being and a new society.

Gaining a perspective on how our current problems are related to each others and are part of a larger crisis in human history will give you a better grasp on what is happening in the world and how you might want to respond. In addition, as you get in touch with your concerns about certain social issues, your response will be greatly aided by understanding the deeper causes behind these issues and how they are related to each other and to your personal life. For further reading see my book, Transforming Human Culture: Social Evolution and the Planetary Crisis.

How much do you understand about current world and community issues, and their underlying causes?

Spiritual and Evolutionary Perspective

How can we understand what is happening in the world today from a larger spiritual perspective? How is the planetary crisis related to our stage of evolutionary development? How is it related to our spiritual development as a species? How is this related to the meaning of existence, to the fundamental nature of reality, to the spiritual evolution of the cosmos? See The Universe Story by Thomas Berry and Brian Swimme or A Brief History of Everything by Ken Wilber.

Do you have a larger spiritual or evolutionary perspective on our current crisis?

Waking Up from the Cultural Trance

All societies have a story or myth that helps to define the nature of reality, what is meaningful, one's place in the world, acceptable and successful behavior, and in general one's world view. Thus we live in a kind of trance without realizing it. In the current historical transformation, we need a new story that is more workable than our present one. But first we must wake up from the trance that is induced by the current story, see what it is, and the numerous unconscious ways it affects our view of reality, our feelings, and our choices about how to live. See Ishmael by Daniel Quinn, The Universe is a Green Dragon by Brian Swimme, or New Stories, Spring 2000 issue of Yes! Magazine.

How awake are you to the current cultural myth?

Emotional Responses to Social Issues

Many of us emotionally deny the possibility of ecological disaster, social breakdown, and other threats to our future.  We also may repress our feeling responses to the violence and inequities in our communities and the world. Breaking through this numbing and feeling our natural emotional responses to these situations allows for the possibility of a creative and powerful response. Feeling our compassion for the pain and suffering in the world also allows us to sense those situations which most move us to reach out in a helping way, thus pointing the way to our life purpose. See my book Inner Journeys, chapter 7 or Coming Back to Life, by Joanna Macy and Molly Young Brown.

How do you respond emotionally to the pain in the world and the threats to our future?

How Society Affects You

We are all strongly affected by our gender, class, race, subculture, lifestyle, position in society and our culture’s attitudes about all of these. Our lives are also deeply impacted by the economy, the environment, and many other societal factors. Our attitudes about social change are also conditioned by our social experiences.

Are you aware of the ways in which your life is affected by social issues?

Interconnectedness

Even though it is healthy to exercise our individuality, it is also nourishing and empowering to experience ourselves not as separate, isolated persons, but as a part of the vast web of life. This connects us with people in need and with the natural world, promoting our compassion and igniting our passion to help. It also connects us with our ancestors and with future generations, and with the universe as a whole, reminding us that we are part of a much larger story. For further reading see Coming Back to Life, by Joanna Macy and Molly Young Brown, chapter 3.

It is also valuable to recognize our oneness with the negative forces in the world and those we consider enemies. This can be done by sensing our own dark sides and empathizing with people who seem to be supporting destructive ends. We need to realize that we don’t have all the answers, and we must all work together to create a healthy society. This attitude will ultimately help us to be more effective in working with those who disagree with us.

How much do you feel connected with all beings in a way that promotes your compassion and effectiveness?

How Social Transformation Happens

In thinking about how to contribute to social transformation, it is helpful to have an idea of how fundamental social change can come about? What role do social movements or organizations play? What about protest, education, public policy, personal growth, alternative institutions, reform? How can a spiritual or holistic approach aid in the effectiveness of social transformation movements? What are the various ways that a person can make a contribution to healing the world? See my paper “Principles of Social Transformation.”

Do you have an understanding of how social transformation happens and effective means of achieving it? What are the variety of ways that a person can make a difference?

Social Vision

It is empowering to envision a positive future—imagining a changed society and the social process that might lead to it. This provides specific goals to work for, mobilizes energy and excitement, and also encourages a hopeful attitude about the impact you can have on the world. See Imagine by Marianne Williamson.

What is your vision of a healthy society and how we might get there?

Discovering Your Life Purpose

Orientation

Interests

First you need to discover your most important interests and inclinations—the kinds of activities you enjoy, the kinds of settings you prefer, the kind of technology you like to work with, and the sorts of people you like. Also consider geographic area, commuting, travel, and other preferences. This understanding will lead you to activities that spark your excitement and enthusiasm, work that taps your creative edge, and a lifestyle that is deeply satisfying. We can use career assessments to help you discover appropriate careers based on your interests and talents. See Wishcraft by Barbara Sher, chapter 3, What Color is Your Parachute by Richard Bolles, chapter 4, or Inner Journeys, chapter 11.

What kind of activities, settings, and people most interest you?

Innate Gifts and Skills

An important step in finding your life purpose is recognizing the gifts you were born with to help you in carrying it out—your talents, strengths, and special personal qualities.  It is also important to recognize the skills and knowledge which you have acquired during your life. See references above.

What are your talents, special qualities, and skills?

Values

What is most important to you in life? What ways of being do you value most? In work, in relationships, in your inner life, in society. Exploring this issue sets the stage for discovering your life purpose. See Making a Living While Making a Difference, by Melissa Everett, Step 4.

Social Concerns

What are the things that concern you most deeply about your community or the earth, about people or society, the issues that stir your passion and commitment.  For instance, you might concerned about global warming, or the oppression of third world people. You might want to help handicapped children or participate in the creation of cooperative community life.

What social issues do you care most deeply about?  

Feeling Your Desire and Passion

It is very helpful to feel in a clear way your desire to find your life purpose. You may first sense as a general yearning for more out of life or a vague dissatisfaction with your life as it is. Try to sense the desire itself and then the excitement and passion that are aroused when you are discovering and actualizing your life purpose. This goes beyond intellectual understanding. It is often felt in the body or as a spiritual sensing. This fuels your search for life purpose and provides commitment, focus, and courage.

Can you feel your desire and passion for finding your life purpose?

General Direction of Life Purpose

In this subphase, you discover the general direction of your life purpose without yet worrying about a specific career. You may discover the area in which you would like to make a contribution or the core values and meaning that underlie whatever you will do. For example, art, sustainability, integrity, or education. You might discover two or three areas that are important.

Reflective Inquiry

In this approach, the coach asks you evocative questions and helps you to reflect in a deeper way on the meaning and direction of your life.

Guided Meditation

In a guided meditation, the coach takes you on an inner journey to the depths of your psyche to help you discover information that is not usually available to our ordinary consciousness. This also helps you to learn how to access such higher wisdom on your own. Click here to see a sample guided meditation.

Way of Being, Learning, Healing, Growth

In addition to career, your life purpose may involve a way of being in the world, for example, being loving to all people, being deeply attuned to the earth, trusting your inner knowing, or being courageous. In a slightly different perspective, your life purpose may involve learning certain things during your life or meeting important challenges in your personal growth. It might mean healing yourself from childhood wounds or perhaps moving toward spiritual realization. This might then lead you to help others heal or grow in similar ways. See Discovering Your Soul's Purpose by Mark Thurston, chapter 4.

Does your life purpose have to do with a certain way of being? Does it involve certain kinds of learning, growth, or healing?

Source of Life Purpose

Spiritual Calling

Some people sense that they have a spiritual calling toward a way of being? This step involves exploring the depths of your psyche to uncover this. See my paper “Finding Your Life Purpose” or Thurston.

Do you have a spiritual calling?

Your Life Path

It can be helpful to view the larger flow of your life in terms of its meaning, seeing how the events of your life form a coherent pattern pointing toward an overall purpose, allowing your own personal myth to unfold.

What is your understanding of the overall path of your life?

Working through Blocks

Most people have some psychological blocks that make if difficult for them to discover their life purpose or actualize it. It is important to identify these blocks when they arise, learn where they come from, and work them through. See my article Working through Blocks to Your Life Purpose. They can come up at this point in the process or later during actualization.

Have you identified and worked through your psychological blocks to the life purpose process?

Career and Project Ideas

In this subphase, you refine your sense of life purpose by generating and evaluating ideas for projects and careers, such as being a sustainability consultant to corporations or educating children about conflict resolution. These projects should not yet be tied down in too specific a way. For a career to be right it must meet three criteria: (1) It must resonate with your deepest sense of meaning. (2) You must have the talent to be successful at it, perhaps in collaboration with others. (3) It must be needed in the world.

Validating and Expanding Existing Contributions

It is important to recognize the ways in which you may already be contributing to the world. For example you may be living out values that promote a healthy society or influencing people positively in your everyday contacts or in your work. Recognizing this helps you to appreciate the value of your life as it is. You can then become more effective by doing what you do with the conscious intention of serving a higher purpose, perhaps even making an organized project out of it. You might choose to remain in your current work situation and transform it so that you are making a higher contribution. For example, if you do corporate personnel work which you enjoy but doesn’t feel spiritual, instead looking for a new job, you could remain and work to bring spiritual values into the corporate culture. For a wise discussion, see Making a Living While Making a Difference, by Melissa Everett, Step 10.

In what ways are you already living your life purpose? How might this be expanded to make a greater impact? How could you make a contribution in your current work situation?

Becoming a Transformative Citizen

You may want to contribute to social transformation by changing the way you live your life to be more in line with what is required for a healthy society. You may consume less, create community around you, live in a more cooperative way, connect deeply to the natural world, or many other options. You may develop and manifest personal qualities and make personal choices that reflect your social values.

In what ways does your current life reflect your social values and vision? How would you like to live in a way that does?

Integrating Sides of Yourself.

Many people have more than one concern about the world and perhaps a number of talents or important values. It can be helpful to explore how these areas may be integrated in choosing a career, so that as much as possible of you is included. This integration may also occur later during Successive Approximations.

Can you think of ways to integrate different sides of yourself into one project?

Ideal Work Vision

It is now time to create your vision of an ideal work situation. At this point, don't worry about exactly how this would come about, just focus on what you would ideally be doing to be most fulfilling for you and a meaningful contribution to the world. You may want to start by brainstorming a number of possibilities and then choosing the one that moves you mostly deeply. 

What is your vision of your ideal work?

Concrete Brainstorming

Now it is time to generate a list of projects and careers that are possible manifestations of your ideal work vision (or some aspects of it). Begin to include real-world projects that might be feasible. Brainstorm as many as possible. Tell your friends about your ideal work and ask them for ideas. 

What specific projects or careers might be right for you now?

Sensing What is Needed

Since your life purpose is a contribution to the world, it involves sensing what is needed--by people you interact with or want to help, or by your community or the world. Your choice of life purpose will be influenced by what you sense is most needed in the world as well as by what you best have to offer. Your intuitive understanding of what is needed informs the discovery of your life purpose during this phase. During the Action phase as you explore how to manifest your purpose, you will learn more about what is needed as you get feedback from the experiments you try. You can also sense what is needed in each moment as you continue on your life purpose path. Some things can't be planned ahead; they must be decided in the moment as you progress.

To the extent that your life purpose is oriented toward a way of being, it is helpful to sense what is needed in each moment as you interact with people and the world. When you are fully open, you will spontaneously manifest the personal or spiritual quality that is most needed in each situation. This ability is enhanced by spiritual work. See The Diamond Approach by John Davis.

Of all the contributions you could make, which ones are most needed by other people and the world right now? To what extent do you naturally respond according to what is needed in each moment?

Personal Vision

It is important to envision actually carrying out your life purpose and creating satisfying career, to imagine a sequence of actions that would lead to that goal.  This could be a guided meditation, or it could be written out as a life plan or a flow chart of specific actions or a business plan. This creates excitement and passion, makes your ideas more concrete, and provides a guide for taking action. It is useful even if you end up deciding on a different project. See Wishcraft by Barbara Sher, chapters 6 & 8.

Do you have a vision and plan for how to manifest your life purpose?

Checking into Your Depths

When considering projects or careers, it is helpful to be able to check inside yourself to that place of depth where you can feel your deeper purpose. In this way, you can investigate to see whether or not an idea really resonates. 

Do you have a way of checking with your deeper sense of purpose?

Actualizing Your Life Purpose

Getting Started. 

In order to get started, it can be useful to decide on a first step of action that isn't too threatening. It can be as small as making a single phone call. It may be useful to take on a small project that you know you can do. This will give you some experience and build your confidence.

Have you a concrete way to start? 

Researching Possibilities

At this point you have a sense of what you are looking for, a specific job, a certain type of organization, a particular kind of apprenticeship, a kind of business you want to start. You conduct a thorough investigation of the possibilities, through reading, talking to appropriate people, doing market research, needs assessment. It is important to cultivate the skills for critical researching. See Everett, Step 5.

Have you investigated various possibilities for your life purpose?

Finding Collaborators

Even if you are starting something new, you don't have to do it all by yourself. Consider looking for an organization that you could join or finding collaborators to work on a project together. They can complement your talents and provide community and support.

Have you considered working with other people to create your life purpose?

Staying Mobilized

Once you are started, there are a variety of ways to maintain your momentum--planning your actions week by week, making commitments to yourself, checking in with a friend, using a support group, rewarding yourself for taking risks, keeping track of your progress, remembering why this is important to you. A coach can be very helpful in this.

How will you maintain your momentum?

Experimenting

It is often necessary to try out a project or career direction by attending meetings, doing volunteer work, taking a job, or beginning a business. This needs to be done in a spirit of experimentation, knowing that you may need to test a number of possibilities before you will find one that really fits you and is also needed in the world. It is important to give yourself permission to move on when something is not working out, so that you are not afraid of getting stuck in the first thing you try.

Have you experimented with your project before fully committing yourself to it?

Developing Capacities

In order to fully manifest your life purpose, you may need to develop certain psychological capacities or worldly skills. You might need to develop greater humility or interpersonal courage or vision. You might need to learn more about writing or marketing or being organized. In addition, you may need to work through certain psychological issues that are preventing you from developing these capacities.

What capacities do you need to develop to make your life purpose a reality?

Revisiting Earlier Steps

You will get feedback from your research and experiments--internal feedback about how well a given project or job resonates with your deep purpose and external feedback about how much the world seems to need this contribution. When this feedback is negative, it may indicate that you need to change your approach, or you may realize that you should go back to the discovery phase and explore further.

Is it time to revisit an earlier step in this process?

Successive Approximations

You may not find your ideal career right away. You may have to go through a process of successive approximations, where at first you find something that only partially meets your criteria for a fully satisfying contribution. Perhaps you find a volunteer project in an area of interest which allows you to gain skills and experience. After that you can get a paying job in the same field which also gives you increased responsibility and autonomy. During this time you develop better contacts and refine your ideas about how to use this work to make a contribution. As you gain experience, your interests and skills will become refined, and you will create newer and more exciting ways to fulfill your purpose, ways that use more of your creativity, that reach more people, that flow from your deepened understanding of what is needed. Each time you will find or create a situation that fits you better and allows you to have a greater positive impact on the world.

Are you willing to start wherever you can? Is it time to move to a new situation that is closer to your true purpose?

(Latest modification of this article 6/23/01)

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